I guess I should say happy thanksgiving to everyone, even if I don't feel all that great. I'm being told not to piss people off, but lately, I'm really wanting to piss off a lot of people. A person once told me that to destroy a relationship, both sides contribute to it's destruction. I'm feeling ready to pour the gasoline on it and light a match and watch it burn, for my side of the relationship. I don't really want to sit around a try to wait for months & months for acceptance.

Here we are, trying to do what we think is right. We're trying to figure out what the best thing to do is. At the same time, "the guys" want anything to do with it. Not willing to help in any way. So, it's just us. We decide to tell the parental units. Afterwards, we get blamed for doing everything wrong. Why? One says that we didn't go to the parents for help but we did, just not as early as some would have liked. I'm beginning to think that we only did one thing wrong, we cared! This was the first time that we had to deal with a situation like this. We were not perfect in how we handled things but we tried. It hurts that the ones who were willing to do anything to help got kicked to the curb in about 5 seconds flat. Now I get the feeling that "the guys" are being far more accepted that we are; even though they were unwilling to help! That person also seems so much happier to be talking to them then with us. And it all hurts so badly. Why exactly are people mad at us? How have we betrayed them? What are the exact reasons people are mad at us? We only get generic answers, no specific reasons why. Are we really the people that other people should be mad at?

Then tonight, basically being told that it's curious about me not contacting a friend. Last time he was around, he said that he would call us & try to come over to spend a little more time with us, but he never called. I figured it was related to the first visit that seemed to end badly. So, I thought I would wait for him to contact me. Every time he comes home, I hardly have time to see him because he just wants to spend his whole time home with the family. It's a battle to get time with him, so I thought I would wait for him to contact me and to say that he would make some time for me. Not the case. It's "we get to see him if we can steal him away from the family." I'm I so unimportant to him that he's not willing to try to call me & spend time with me? Are we that unimportant to people?

9+ years of friendship seems to mean absolutely nothing to people so why not burn down the bridge?